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Awaken your relationship

Let’s talk about love.  Like real love. The kind that gets dirty, nasty, beautiful, loving and well, basically the best anecdote for being here some days.  

Now, the love that we all know, probably really well, it’s pretty.  It’s romantic. It’s always perfect and uplifting and cheerful. It’s the love that gets you in love.  Like babies. Super cute so they survive, right? Well, that’s a huge part of love. It’s exploration. It’s fun.  It’s new. It just feels so right. But what happens next?

Well, next is usually a place in the relationship called complacency.  It’s not a pretty, bright, uplifting place. But you know what? It happens.  And truly, it’s what you do about it. Complacency is kind of a dirty word, but if you acknowledge that you’re in it, it can be totally pivotal.   It’s a place that love goes when it needs a little vacation. When love realizes that there are just too many dishes to do today. That the baby was up ALL night and love needs to hit snooze.

I don’t believe anyone wants to be in a complacent relationship.  Yeah, sure, I love having a loveless marriage and boring life….said no one.   Think about all of the work it took to court and fall in love? Well, that too needs upkeep!  And when you start putting the time in, what you get on the other side of complacency is gorgeous.  It’s comfortable AND exciting. Like a well padded roller coaster maybe? Maybe. I just know that I’ve been on all sides of love and it totally feels like smooth sailing once I dropped the bs and committed to change. Committed to dropping ego and giving in.  To work. To love. To talking. And now to flourish (kinda the best part).

Relationships have so many layers, timelines, experiences, feelings….None are the same.  But one thing I can attest to is that they take work. And that’s ok! It’s actually awesome!  When you look at your partner that you’ve chosen for life, say yes! Say yes to talking, laughing, crying, maybe yelling.  But just be sure to hold that love you have so dear.

Here are some steps we’ve taken to keep going strong when times get tough.

1- call each other out on things that upset you (in the most loving, non-condescending way) and be open to criticism

2- be ok with admitting that you are probably doing things that drive your partner crazy

3- be willing to change habits

4- listen to each other

5- have dates (sounds sooooo obvious but rarely happens after marriage)

And my favourite one - have meetings.  This one has changed my life. Every week we hold a family meeting to talk about the good, the bad and the ugly.  It gives everyone a chance to openly talk about how their week went and what they can do to move forward and grow.  It also is great to stay on top of life, tasks, dates, everything. I know it may not sound very romantic but it leads to owning your feelings, getting organized and living blissfully!

Stay in love my friends!  Or reach out to me if you need help or have any questions about co-existing with the love of your life xx

Abundant Competition


Abundant Competition

One Soul Awakening

What is competition in a world of abundance?

When I wandered around the Hamilton Wedding Show a few weekends back, I was surrounded by the crazy beautiful world of all things wedding. It’s a massive industry.  A beast. And with only a few areas: Officiant, Venue, Decor, Photographer, Attire and Flowers. Don’t be offended if I missed your expertise - I generally leave after the ceremony ;)

So with that in mind, how do we all “compete”?  I was asked while wandering around that day, who my competitors were.  And to be honest, it stumped me. I mean, yes, other wedding officiants.  But really, are we competing?

I can’t help but feel that we don’t need to compete. What I do may be the same service as another, however, they don’t have me.  And I don’t have them. I love that I attract a specific client. You draw what you project. Not every type of wedding is made for me, for my style.  And I’m totally ok with that! In fact, I kinda pride myself on that. And maybe that’s what sets me apart. I don’t want to please everyone, but for those that I do...I wanna knock their socks off!

Then it got me thinking about the world, population, and too many other things that make my head spin. And it made me think harder about abundance.  The fact that this planet is abundant and perfect and that we can each have everything we’ve ever wanted. And I do truly believe that. When we put our focus into what we want, I mean, what we REALLY want.  And we are clear with our thoughts, ideas and intentions, we will get exactly that. I can attest that it really does work that way.

And with that note, I don’t want to compete (tell that to my husband after a game of Monopoly!).  I am me, and I’m the only me out there. Can we all say that together now? Create what you want and go for it! Be clear, precise and thoughtful, and you’ll never have to use the word “competition”.  Because you’ll always have exactly what you are asking for.

Who's on trend?

What would you say the biggest wedding trend is right now? What would you say if I told you it really didn’t matter? And what would you say if I told you to go ahead and have the wedding you’ve always wanted?!   As much as I do love a good Pinterest board of wedding trends, I see a lot of couples stressing over little details or feeling pressured into making their day looking like something from a magazine.

I wanna tell you right now.  You don’t have to. You want a Star Wars themed wedding? Go for it! Love neon but blushes are all the rage? So what?!  You wanna get married in the Rockies? Call me! ;)

When I married my superstar hubby, we opted for Christmas because the whole place was decorated.  I didn’t have a colour, a wedding party, heck I barely remember what I even said during my vows. What I DO remember about that day though was the love I felt.  I danced my butt off to every song my husband lined up on the iTunes cue.

I’m not saying, don’t go all out on your big day.  I just want to tell you that it’s ok to do it your way.  Just do you, and remember what’s important! You’ve already hired the best decorator, let them worry about the details!

On another note, I REALLY want to see the decorators out there that are pushing the envelope! Let’s start getting creative and having some fun!  I mean, this IS the party of our lives, right? If I were to do it all over again, I would rent a carousel and turn the place into a mini theme park with a dance floor!  …...but who wouldn’t do that lol ;)

Just some food for thought!

wacky wedding

All are one.


All are one….

One Soul Awakening

Ok.  So I need to bring this up.  Over the past few months I have had many couples emailing me asking if I’m “ok if they are gay”.  I’ve even had a few ask if I was allowed to marry two women together.

To be honest, I was floored.  I mean, who am I to stand in between two people wanting to love each other and spend the rest of their lives together? To think about how far we’ve come by 2019, we all fought for people to marry someone of the same sex.  And now, us who can legally do it, say no? Sorry, what?

So then over the weekend I spent time at a wedding expo.   Needless to say, I learned all about why this is even a question.  Did you know that under certain religious affiliations, a minister is not allowed to marry a same-sex couple? Because I didn’t.  Again, floored. I couldn’t imagine the look on my face and the lump in my stomach I would have if my ministry uttered these words.  

I can’t speak about other ministries as I only know my own.  But I have to say, I love the ministry I’ve aligned with. I have the freedom to use a variety of traditions, wordings, elements - or hey, none at all.  But the most important to me? I have the freedom to marry two humans that share so much love that they want it to be known publicly and legally. My hat goes off to those who spend so much time researching their big day, only to be turned down.  Well, I will not. I welcome all with open arms, mind and heart.

I took this morning to add an LGBTQ piece into my IG and will follow up with my website and socials.  I didn’t think I ever had to, but for those who are dealing with this, I’m here!

Same Company, better look!

I have been running One Soul Awakening for a few years now. It started out as a cool name for my husband and I to describe the feeling we were experiencing spiritually at the time. An interconnectedness to everything and everyone.  I mean even when you split it up, One Soul or Soul Awakening, it made sense to us and we loved it. One Soul has morphed and grown over the last few years. Sometimes taking a nap in the shadows, sometimes yelling for all to hear. But it’s always been there, it has become an integral part of my life.  

I remember when I registered the business and thought “wow, I actually just did that...I suppose I need things now???”  These “things” ended up being a logo, business cards, rack cards, but what was I even supposed to put on them?  I remember jumping onto Fiverr with a few ideas and $20 and got a logo that I actually did like. Trying to make up any materials to follow however….no amount of Vistaprint pop-ins could save me.  But I did it for years and shyly handed out cards (sometimes it was a different one than the last) that I didn’t love and was actually nervous that it looked bad.

Then this last summer came and launched my business and my passion into a newer direction and I’ve never looked back!  What I had been passively doing for years, suddenly I fell in love with the idea of being able to do this full gear, full time, full support!  

I mean, I get to marry people full time which means I am surrounded by love...full time! Not just in my personal life but now my work life.  And I couldn’t be happier!

I was given so many amazing opportunities to grow in 2018 and yes, I took advantage of every single one!  So with this growth and new outlook, I want to introduce a refreshing new look for the brand. The insanely talented Jess Avolio based out of Hamilton put so much into rebranding One Soul.  I am astounded by her work, and blown away that she just plain, Nailed It. From the palette to the font to the logo, I am floored. This is just a taste of what she has created but truly, she captured not only my vibe, but my future.

So let’s show her some love here while I introduce the very new look of One Soul Awakening!  I hope you all love it as much as I do!

The magical genius of J.Avolio!

The magical genius of J.Avolio!

From City Hall to Burger King

I’ve always loved seeing images of people getting married at City Hall.  One image that always comes to mind was a picture I had come across of a couple leaving City Hall and heading to Burger King in a cocktail dress and suit jacket. It made me smile seeing the joy in their eyes.  They did it their way, the whole way through. It was memorable, sweet and simple.

One thing that I hear often from couples is that here in Hamilton they aren’t finding the City Hall experience.  Currently the City of Hamilton doesn’t have a judge, justice of the peace or clerk to perform a legal marriage.  Which means that as an engaged couple there is no quick and easy option in Hamilton for an elopement. If it isn’t paid advertising, it is a slew of legal information about your paperwork.  After taking a walk along the same path engaged couples do, I found it a bit tricky to see how a couple could go the “cheap and cheerful” route without taking on a sometimes daunting task of planning a wedding.

Without having to book years or months in advance, I offer an elopement service for couples to have a quick heartfelt ceremony and begin their lives together.  

Call or email me to book a time to elope - just bring your marriage license and two witnesses and you will leave teary-eyed, full of love AND legally married!  All hitch, no hassle.

I’m hoping by providing this in the Hamilton area, I will be able to bring a service here that isn’t as available anymore.