With Valentine’s Day coming up this week, I just had to talk about it. The V-word. There are definitely two sides to this day.
Let’s give it up to those that love it. I mean LOOOOVE it. It’s ok, don’t be embarrassed. There are some people who feel like it’s a day filled with love and romance, flowers and chocolates, everything they may want! It’s the one day a year they might get the flowers and chocolates. Maybe it’s the day they get to have a babysitter and actually go out with their love. Maybe they take that one day to express everything they want but maybe are too shy to.
For some, it’s the day that is designated for expression. And don’t worry, I fully understand the term “Hallmark Holiday” - we will get to that as well. For some, they have to work too much. Some get lost in the daily grind. Some wish they had more time. Well, we aren’t all perfect. And for some of us, we forget sometimes to show love to our partner. To slow down and take a day or night (or weekend!) and express what they have wanted to all along. Valentine’s is a time where we can say “Slow Down”. Make the extra efforts you’ve wanted to. And it’s ok that it’s a designated day. Sometimes we need that as a marker because as much as we all want to be perfect, we aren’t. And really, how awesome does it feel to be showered in love?
Then there’s people like the Me I Used To Be. Those who hate on Valentine’s Day because it’s a cash grab. That we should do loving things for each other all year round and not feel pressured into one single day. Because it loses the meaning. Well, how many of us say that but then deep in our hearts feel sad or hurt because they don’t do anything special or get any extra tokens that day? That was fully me. I couldn’t express loudly enough how silly I felt the holiday was! How foolish to kill flowers and give them to each other. And if I wanted chocolate, I can damn well buy them myself. But why was I even saying that? I guess somewhere around my surface, I’m a big toughie. But as I grow and learn and trust, I realize that’s all a front for me. I was actually ok with Valentines. And being loved. Eating chocolate (you know, those cheezy ones in the heart shaped boxes). Having flowers around the house. And that sometimes it’s ok to take a day, yes, even a designated day, to accept gifts and love.
I have to say, letting go of the self-imposed judgement of enjoying Valentine’s Day has been a relief. It actually was all a part of a huge shift in ME on accepting love, being vulnerable and showing emotion.
So I guess at the end of this, the one thing I’d like to leave behind is for you to just roll with it! Roll with life. Roll with love. Express yourself. Live full. Love huge. Be an awesome human. And lastly, stop putting limitations on what you think you need to feel, do or be. Just enjoy life and each day that comes with it!