This has been on my mind now for really, quite some time.
The Perfect Wedding vs The Perfect Marriage
I’m not sure when it became trendy to blow all of your probably hard-earned money on a few hours, but c’mon friends. I meet with a lot of couples everyday. We talk about relationships, goals, experiences and sometimes even Stranger Things. Something that also comes up is the ceremony and reception :)
I adore my couples. I choose my couples, just as they choose me. I want to work with those I connect with, just as I am sure they do as well. One thing I also really look for in a couple is love, connection and support.
I wish I could say that I haven’t met couples that looked and sounded like they only wanted images of epicness and perfection for IG. I wish I could say that. But it happens. And then what? Once the EPIC $100,000 wedding is over, what happens to the couple?
Does that perfect wedding translate into the perfect marriage? Maybe. Maybe not. I suppose that all depends on the couple. But where does the importance lay?
Ever watch someone push their fiance out of a selfie? Tell them to get out because they are ruining the shot? I have. And I was floored.
What happened to living free? Enjoying time together, enjoying life? It seems that many are so caught up in perfection, maybe outdoing someone else, being Insta-ready, impressing the hell out of anyone looking, that they have forgotten why they are even there to begin with.
I’m not saying don’t go big. Do you, 100%! But be authentic to yourself and your partner. It’s about sharing the day with your closest friends and family. Sharing love, stories, food, drink and each other. They don’t need to be impressed. They purely want to celebrate!
And the thousands of followers who just hit “like”? Well, it’s safe to say that after they did that, they had already moved on to the next one.
Without getting too preachy and involved here, this is all I’m saying. Do this for love and celebration. It doesn’t matter to anyone if you spend $1000 or $100,000 on one day. To be honest, most people see right through that. What matters is that you smile. That you’re present. You’re there, in full authentic YOU, standing beside your partner, ready to take on the world!
Saying I LOVE THIS PERSON in front of those that matter most. Eat a few bites, toast a few drinks, and then laugh and dance like you’ve never before!
Save that dough friends! Take an amazing honeymoon! Travel for a year, have a downpayment, whatever you need. But place your energy on the marriage. Not the party. The party ends, don’t let the marriage. Spend time with each other. Grow together. Learn to love in ways you can’t imagine.
Spend your energy on what’s important to you. And hey, if a massive blow out is what’s important to you, and it isn’t going to put a strain on you or your relationships, by ALL means! Go for it! I just want to take a moment for those who get caught up. Keep in mind what’s real to you and what your love story is. And stay true to yourselves.
You’re the only ones truly looking.